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Don’t Let Indecision Get in the Way of Your Dreams

If you have difficulty making decisions, indecision may or may not be the problem.

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Actually, it probably is the problem. Achieving goals can be difficult when you can’t make a decision. While you’re vacillating, time’s wasting and opportunities are being scored by those who know how to make up their minds, own their decisions and make the most out of choices.

If you have difficulty making up your mind (or even if you maybe, perhaps, kind of don’t), here are four things you absolutely need to know to stop indecision from keeping you from achieving goals:

Indecision is still a decision. You might think that you’re incapable of committing, but not making a decision is actually deciding to do nothing. So see? You are capable of making decisions–you just need to decide to make constructive decisions.

Your probably thinking too much. A lot of smart, energetic, creative people suffer from what’s known as “idea overwhelm.” It’s when there are so many ideas swimming around in your head (most of them probably good ones) that you can’t focus on which one is the right one at the right time. The problem with idea overwhelm is that you’re so busy worrying about all of your ideas that you never actually do anything about any of your ideas.

Few decisions are ever “right.” Sure, there are times when you need to make the right decision (when you’re in an abusive relationship and need to get out or when you decide to take a cab instead of drinking and driving), but most other decisions deal with life’s gray areas. Knowing this means that if your decision doesn’t work out, you can always change course and try the next best option.

You’ll never know if you never decide. Every great accomplishment is the product of great decisions. Imagine if Hemingway never decided to sit down and write. Or if John Lennon never decided to pen “Imagine.” Decide to do something and then make it amazing. Then get busy achieving goals, dominating your life, owning your decisions and living life to the fullest. That’s living Sentenced2Life.

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Stop Fighting with Your Significant Other!

Endless barbs and bickering. Constant complaining. All-out verbal warfare. If this describes the relationship between your significant other and yourself, it’s time for both of you to stop the arguing, develop positive attitudes and get back to enjoying each other’s company as you take the world by storm.

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No relationship is without its challenges, and no relationship is perfect.

Jimmy and Jane Buffett are on their second marriage to one another. Bill and Hillary are on their first, but if you believe the headlines, it hasn’t been easy. Even Johnny and June, the couple synonymous with everlasting love, were known to get out of line with their arguments from time to time.

But you don’t have to live like these lovebirds. You have the power to move from arguing all the time to amore.

Here’s how:

  • Say it out loud. If you really want to stop arguing with your significant other, you’re going to have to articulate your wishes. Tell him or her. Say it out loud. Chances are very good that your partner wants the same thing.
  • Leave your ego out of it. Believe it or not, your ego is your enemy when it comes to putting an end to all the arguments. Sure, it plays an important role in every persons’ ability to have confident positive attitudes in everyday life, but if you are too proud to admit you are wrong or consider a divergent point of view, you’re probably going take it personally, get mad and start arguing.
  • Make it more important to be happy than to be right. Think about it, is winning or being right (at the expense of the person you love) more important than being happy? Probably not in most cases.
  • Put your partner first. Again, this comes back to your ego, which is all about you. Being happily in love is all about putting your partner, and hence your happiness, first.

There you have it. Follow these four steps and you and your significant other will develop more positive attitudes. You’ll stop arguing. And you’ll be able to live like you’re Sentenced2Life.

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How Exercise Can Change Your Life

It’s common knowledge that exercise can reshape the human body, but it can also inspire and empower amazing life changes.

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Jonathan is living proof of the transformational power of exercise. In an interview with Jonathan from Greatist, he details growing up in Queens in the 1990s, when he turned to drugs to deal with feelings of anxiety and anger. A self-confessed addict by age 16, his life was off balance and out of control; and in his words, he’s lucky to have survived those dark teenage years.

Going away to college gave Jonathan the opportunity to escape the faces and places that could have kept him on a sure path to self destruction. But, what gave him the motivation to start exercising?

His old high school crush loved a guy who was jacked, and Jonathan felt too powerless and puny to compete. He wanted to look better for her. He started going to the gym with a new college friend. He learned how to lift weights, how to track his progress and how to safely push his limits.

After years of self-medicating to deal with his feelings, he now had a healthy addiction — exercise. Instead of experimenting with drugs, he experimented with different exercises programs. The routine of working out gave his life structure, and his goals gave him a new found sense of purpose. He felt energized and empowered, and every incremental success fueled his desire to become better and stronger.

He worked out non-stop throughout his freshman year, and by the time summer arrived, Jonathan felt like a new person. He was bigger, stronger, more confident and in control, and happier too. Exercise gave him the opportunity to discover and fulfill his physical and mental potential, and the ability to tackle whatever circumstances or challenges life threw his way.

Today, Jonathan works as a personal trainer in New York, motivating clients to reach their own fitness goals. He’s drug-free, healthy and still incredibly passionate. He’s made sharing the power of exercise his life’s work.

Jonathan exemplifies what we believe in at Sentenced2Life. We’re here to inspire and empower you to change your life for the better and then let your passion motivate others.

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5 Ways to Boost Your Willpower

Potato chips. Happy hour. An extra hour of sleep. Life is full of will-power-testing land mines that can blow up your diet and day.

Regardless of how mentally tough you are, sometimes you need a little extra motivation to succeed–tools to help you boost your willpower and avoid stepping on the land mines.

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Here are five ways to boost your motivation to succeed and keep your goals from blowing up:

Take on the tough stuff right away. An intense hour at the gym? Get it out of the way first thing in the morning. That work that’s due by day’s end? Get on it as soon as you get out of bed.

Procrastinating only increases the likelihood that you’ll fall off track during the day. On the other hand, taking care of the tough stuff right away gives you a sense of accomplishment and makes it more likely you’ll stay on track.

Retrain your brain. Believe it or not, you can teach yourself willpower. You can tell yourself that you don’t like doughnuts, for example, even though they are delicious. You can like the taste but hate what they do to your body. The same concept applies to other willpower land mines, too. Just tell yourself you don’t like them and soon you will believe it.

Keep your eye on the horizon. If you have long-term goals — and think about them all the time — you are less likely to do things that keep you from accomplishing them in the short-term.

Sleep. It might sound counterproductive, but taking a nap is a great way to recharge your mind, get away from temptation and wake up with your motivation to succeed in tact. So go ahead, lie down and take a little nap when you’re tempted to fall off track.

Give yourself a break. Everyone needs a little break from rigor and rules once in a while. After all, why are you putting in all the effort if you never get to live life to the fullest — which sometimes involves some self-indulgence.

Need more motivation to succeed? Check out Sentenced2Life every day for all the information you need to live a prideful life.

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Feeling Stressed at Work? Don’t!

If you’ve got a full-time job, you work at least 2,000 hours a year. You probably spend more time with your co-workers than you do with your family. And you probably find it harder to escape work-related stress.

According to a recent study, 40 percent of adults admit to lying in bed at night, stressing out about work. They feel overwhelmed, worried about their futures and just plain stress.

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All that worrying about work takes up a lot of emotional energy, energy that could be used in living a purpose filled life. If the same thing is happening to you, it’s time to let go of your work-related stress, relax and get back to living the life you want–a purpose filled life.

Here’s how to shed away stress at your workplace:

  • Take control. According to a study conducted by Harvard University researchers, people feel more stress when they feel like they are not in control of situations. You can reduce stress by taking control of things — even if they are little things. Make decisions. Be decisive. And own projects rather than letting projects own you.
  • Eliminate interruptions. Nothing can sap your energy, derail your momentum and blow up your day like unexpected interruptions. If you are constantly interrupted, take steps to stop it. Make people schedule time on your calendar, end unexpected interruptions as soon as they arrive and take control of your time.
  • Breathe. Taking deep breaths — and really, really focusing on them — can help you relax. Inhale for five seconds, then exhale for five seconds through your nose. Doing deep-breathing exercises for 90 seconds can help you calm down when you’re feeling stressed.
  • Take care of yourself. If you’re stressing all the time, you might not be eating right or getting enough sleep, both of which are key to feeling good. The worse your feel, the more you’ll stress. Stop the vicious cycle by taking care of yourself.

Living a purpose filled life isn’t always easy. But it can be done. Remember, you’re Sentenced2Life, live the life you want to and do all you can to enjoy it. And that just might mean putting work on the back burner.

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4 Actions to become a happier prideful person

Energy, excitement, pride and love — These are some of the ingredients it takes to live life with passion. You’ve got to bring energy and excitement to everything you do, you’ve got to take pride in your accomplishments and yourself, and you’ve got to love every day.

And, most importantly, you have to be happy–because if you’re happy, you’re more likely to see opportunities instead of challenges, lessons instead of losses.

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Life a life you’re happy and proud to call your own with some of this insight from S2L.

Of course, some days are better than others, and it can be hard to find happiness when life seems to be dead set on tripping you. But if you put your mind to it–if you make a conscious decision to be happy–you can turn life’s tragedies into comedies, own them, learn from them and use them for daily inspiration.

Here’s how:

Wake up happy. Stuart Smalley may have taken the daily affirmation a little too far during his “Saturday Night Live” skits, but he had the right idea. If you wake up, look in the mirror and make the first thought you have a happy one, you’re setting the tone–a positive tone–for the rest of the day.

Snap out of the negative. If you find yourself constantly thinking negative thoughts, put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it. Eventually, you’ll want to stop thinking negatively because your wrist will be sore. It hurts a little, but it works a lot.

Play. Ever notice how kids are always so happy? It’s probably because they make time to play. Mindless playing–video games, sports, cards–can recharge your mental batteries and remind you that life is fun. Making time to play every day should give you daily inspiration to be happy.

Find inspiration. If you feel yourself getting down, fire up the Internet, log onto websites and find daily inspiration.

There are a lot of websites out there that will inspire you and help rekindle that flame in your spirit, such as Sentenced2Life, that provide words of wisdom and encouragement. Log on, get inspired and live a happy, full life–one with energy, excitement, pride and love.

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Single this Valentine’s Day? Time to Focus on Your Friendships

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Ah, Valentine’s Day. One day a year when lovers across the country stop what they’re doing and show that special someone just how much they love them.

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But what if you don’t have anyone to love? What if you don’t have a “special someone?” What if you’re one of the millions of men and women who are single. Then what?

Then it’s time to focus on your friendships.

For decades, single men and women have been spending every February 14th alone. Most of the single women would curl up under a blanket with a pint of ice cream and watch a romantic comedy. Most of the men would drown their lonesome sorrows–either in suds or sports.

Not anymore.

These days, single men and women are coming together to claim Valentine’s Day for themselves. They are approaching the day with a positive attitude. They’re finding ways to show their friends how much they mean to them. They’re accepting that a Valentine’s Day dinner doesn’t have to be romantic. They are spending the day with friends–and they are loving it.

You see, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a burden for the single. It can be an opportunity to celebrate your life and all that you love about it. But you have to keep a positive attitude. Those things you think you’re supposed to hate about being single? Flip the script on them and view them as positives:

  • You eat dinner alone = You get to eat whatever you want, whenever you want–every night of the year.
  • You only get to go out when your friends are free = You actually get to go out with your friends.
  • You haven’t found your true love = Everyone you meet–even your friends–could be your true love.

See how that works? Keep a positive attitude. Own your circumstance and appreciate that you have freedom, endless opportunities to have fun and friends. Then you spend February 14, Valentine’s Day, with friends–celebrating yourself and celebrating each other. Love the day. Own it. Take it back. That’s what knowing you’re Sentenced2Life and living life with passion is all about.

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Figuring Out the Best Healthy Living Routine for Your Lifestyle

Are you a sprinter or a marathoner, a power-lifter or a cross-fitter?

Deciding what workout is best for you is an important first step toward achieving your fitness goals. Make the wrong choice and you could wind up burnt out with tendinitis and a bad case of the blahs. Choose correctly, and you could be on your way to a winning fitness routine.

Here’s how to choose correctly:

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Make sure you enjoy it.

If you don’t enjoy your working routine, you won’t stick to it. If you dread it, avoid it and can’t stand it while you’re doing it, stop it. Achieving your goals doesn’t have to make your miserable. In fact, it shouldn’t. If you don’t enjoy your exercise routine, find another one immediately. Otherwise you might burn out, leave the gym and never go back.

Make it sustainable.

Achieving goals takes time and commitment. Sure, you might be able to afford that crossfit class for a month or two, but what happens when the money runs out? And that hour-and-a-half, early morning workout? Will you really be able to sustain it for the entire 12 weeks? If not, find something that you will be able to sustain. Otherwise, you risk burnout and frustration.

Make friends.

You’re dedicated. You have a plan. You’ve been working it hard every day. But sometimes, you don’t feel like working out. You’re tired and emotionally down. These are the times you need a friend to help you. Find friends who have the same goals–and the same commitment to achieving goals–as you do. They can pick you up when you stumble (mentally and physically) and help you stay focused.

Make sure it works.

Once you’ve found something sustainable that you enjoy and have made a few workout friends, make sure your workout works. Because if it doesn’t, you’re not doing everything you can to maximize your efforts–and it will take you that much longer to achieve your goals.

Sometimes achieving goals is more about the journey than the accomplishment. Find a workout you love–and then work it to the fullest. That’s the Sentenced2Life way.

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6 Ways to Feel Happier Thanks to Science

When is the last time you felt the pure, unadulterated feeling of happiness?

If you can’t remember because you’ve been too busy to feel unbridled happiness, there’s something you need to know: Sometimes you don’t need a lot of time to feel happy.

Sure, it’s easy to delight in careening down a mountain at 50 miles per hour or feeling the rush of endorphins at mile eight. But these things take time, which seems to be a precious commodity these days.

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Happiness is critical to living a purpose filled life. Fortunately, science shows that you don’t need a lot of time–or a lift ticket–to feel happier. Here are six simple ways science says you can increase your happiness:

Sleep. It could be an extra hour a night, a catnap or a power nap. No matter what method you choose, science shows that more sleep increases your optimism, memory, energy and overall happiness.

Rock out with a purpose. People who listen to music with a purpose–with the intention of feeling happier–actually achieve their goals. So the next time you crank up the tunes, focus your thoughts on being positive–and you will actually be more positive.

Get outside (even if it’s just in your mind). A quick walk through the park, 15 minutes in the sun over your lunch hour and even looking at pictures of nature have all been shown to increase happiness, positivity and emotional health.

Get down, make love. Science has shown that having sex improves your mood, axes anxiety and slashes stress. So go ahead and make a little love.

Help others. If you are trying to live a purpose filled life, you’re probably already trying to help others. But did you know that any kindness you show to others–from simple the simple act of opening a door to making a large donation–also help you feel more positive?

Eat right. Research shows that people who eat more fruits and vegetables are happier. So load up on the good stuff, and you’ll feel a lot better.

You know you’re Sentenced2Life, so do everything you can to enjoy it!

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Staying Motivated Through Adversity: A Story of Overcoming Breast Cancer

Her name is Melanie and in 2009 she seemed to have the world by the tail.

Melanie lived in New York City, ran her own successful public relations firm and traveled the world with rich and famous chefs. She ate the finest foods, drank the most desirable wines and laid her head on the softest pillows.

Then things got hard.

She had just returned from two weeks in Italy when she was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer.

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She cried and commiserated with friends. She met with doctors. And she made herself the most important promise she’d ever make: She would take charge of her treatment, embrace each and every day and beat it.

That promise was the single most important step to overcoming adversity. It empowered her to educate herself with as much information about breast cancer as she could find. It inspired her to exercise with abandon. And it kept her focused on doing everything she could to stay healthy.

First, she addressed her physical wellbeing. She hydrated like never before. She exercised daily. She ate healthy and wholesome foods. Next she addressed her mental health by unplugging from the never-ending world of whirling information. She stopped going online and turned off the TV. She slept more and worried less. She kept a clear mind by giving up alcohol.

Melanie found out that with a plan anything is possible. She changed not only her life but how she viewed live and overcame her cancer. She found out that adversity doesn’t have to define you, consume you or bring you down. Adversity will make you stronger if you are up for the challenge.

Today, Melanie speaks her mind. She asks for help when she needs it. She walks with pride, keeping her head held high and advocating for herself. But more importantly, she is doing what she wants to do and using her story to inspire others.

In other words, she is the embodiment of Sentenced2Life. That’s what S2L is all about—overcoming adversity in your life and then using what you’ve learned to help others do the same.